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When I was 25, I married a man 12 years older than me.
Rather than allow that to make a case for older men being great fathers to infants, that should make the case for young women of childbearing age to mate with young men their own age. Young men are encouraged to be a bit more mature, but remain goofy enough to be playful dads, and young women will hopefully be able to retain a life-long partner instead of an aging and eternal player willing to discard her as soon as she turns 40, or one she wants to ditch as soon as she’s old enough to realize what she’s gotten herself into.Certainly a 50-year-old man dating a 22-year-old woman is better than a 58-year-old-man marrying an 8-year-old girl, but how much better exactly?According to Hugo Schwyzer, this age dynamic is sexist and hurts men and women alike.It’s about the mistaken assumption that younger women will be more malleable.” In fact, young women in their early and mid-20s are quite malleable, something a woman that age might deny, but ask that same woman in her 30s to look back at her younger self and it’s likely she’d concede the point.So why are young women so willing to date older men?He says, “If there’s one tangible thing that men can do to help end sexism—and create a healthier culture in which young people come of age—it’s to stop chasing after women young enough to be their biological daughters.” Schwyzer goes on to say, “As hyperbolic as it may sound, there are few more powerful actions that men can take to transform the culture than to date, mate, and stay with their approximate chronological peers.
If aging guys would commit to doing this, everyone would benefit: older men and younger men, older women and younger women.” There’s no doubt that not everyone will agree with Schwyzer on this, especially not other middle-aged men.
So a 25-year-old woman might shy away from a man five years younger than herself, but when she’s 35, she’d be more interested in dating him because he’s more mature and is her equal. “It widens a woman’s choice if she is in her 30’s or 40’s especially.
There will be more available guys in her age range.
That seems to be a sound directive, given that according to a recent survey commissioned by Nickelodeon UK, “men and women agree men remain ‘immature’ well into their late 30s and early 40s.” Both genders also agree that women mature into proper adults at the age of 32.
Not coincidentally, that’s the age I was when I divorced my much older husband.
“Ask women in their teens and 20s who are in relationships with older men about guys their own age, and you’ll invariably hear laments about young men’s immaturity,” Schwyzer says.